Tag: Ghosting (behavior)

This Valentine’s Day, Let’s Look to Marxists to Reimagine Love, Romance and Sex

Tina Marie (Ms. Cat)
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This Valentine’s Day, Let’s Look to Marxists to Reimagine Love, Romance and Sex

It’s certainly fitting to think of what Gramsci was writing from a fascist prison in today’s political climate. But it’s also true that we’re in another sort of interregnum, one of romance, sexuality and gender itself. And this one comes with its very own set of morbid symptoms, as anyone who’s tried dating lately can attest. Dating apps are a plague, every week there seems to be a new term for bad behavior (“ghosting,” “breadcrumbing,” whatever), work demands more and more of our time, leaving less and less for love, and a constantly destabilized economy leaves us anxious and stressed even if we do happen to have stable work. Abortion is now illegal in a huge chunk of the country, and homophobic and transphobic violence — not to mention actual bans on trans healthcare and drag — are on the rise. And even if you do make it to coupledom and want to have children, our country still has precisely no support for working parents. The material basis on which you might have thought you’d be able to build a life is crumbling. 

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WTF is this 💩?

Tina Marie (Ms. Cat)

I was just recommended the following video and had to look the topic up as I had never heard of this. Sounds like playing mind games to me. Ignoring someone means that you don’t want anything to do with them. At least that’s how I take it to mean. Anyway, I have better things to attend to. I need to stop letting myself get distracted by shiny objects.

Ignoring Someone You Are Attracted To Is Common — Here’s Why

Dr. Jess O’Reilly, Toronto-based sexologist and host of the Sex With Dr. Jess podcast, says that when a guy ignores you but secretly likes you, or when a girl tries to play it cool but she actually is developing feelings, it could be because they get a kick out of leaving you hanging. “Some people ignore their crushes because they’re playing games. And that doesn’t create a good basis for any type of relationship — from the casual to the long-term,” she tells Elite Daily. “Playing games by ignoring someone you like is untoward and manipulative, and it often results in misunderstanding and hurt feelings.”

The psychology of ignoring someone to get them to like you